Saturday, May 27, 2006

Family Part 2

Well here we are another day. I re-read my last post posted in sleepiness, Here is the deal, family comes in for a few days, spaced out properly all is well. I do truly love them most of the time. However this baby visiting back to back thing is going to be tiring. Maybe it will be different this time around. Maybe just visiting Aissa will be so time consuming relationships will be kept status quo.

I am thinking now about my decision 10 years ago to move away from all of them. Far away 12 hours at least. The closest I have lived near them since was 5hours from SLC except for a summer. I have never gone back to Seattle except for occasional visits. When you are put in the middle from age 7 the only thing to do is escape. I guess I've been escaping ever since. Good bad? I don't know. I do know I am closer to my wife and friends then any other family members.

So, if you are family and have found this site dedicated to the pursuit of insanity understand please where I come from. I mean really my Mother in Law has been here for almost three weeks, that has been a very long time.


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Friday, May 26, 2006

Tired, Tired, and more tired

Well this 3 day weekend comes at a good time. I still have to preach the next two Sundays and then I get three weeks off, yea!

I don't mind preaching I just would rather not listen to myself all the time. I mean I don't listen to most preachers so why would anyone listen to me? I usually preach a couple times a month. More with Tolani being out however.

I am talking Sunday about Jesus promise "you will never be alone, I will leave you my peace." I am going to focus on Shalom.

Aissa is doing well. I am just trying to stay alive trough it all. I was up for three hours last night. SDSC tonight.

My mother in law leaves Wednesday YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My mom comes in on Thursday NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Leaves on Sunday YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Two week break from Family YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dad comes for three days NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Leaves on Fathers Day YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When will parents learn about time. Mine are mostly conditioned to the three day rule. Three full days, A day for travel on both ends, then get the heck out. Oh what blessings to living far away from family. I suppose there are curses as well, but with my family a days drive or more works out just fine. Is that a bad attitude to have?

I don't care.

Anyway, VH1 is airing a great series called "Metal" all in preparation for "Rock Honors." Finally some good music out there. Did I say Ozzy is a god? Well he is.

So when all else fails find a good CD, or radio station 106.7 in LA and rock and roll.


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Wednesday, May 24, 2006

Pictures of Aissa

Because Bill won't do it anytime soon. :-)

God bless,
Tolani Finley


what a gift - congratulations

By Blogger Gordon, at 2:09 PM  

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Saturday, May 20, 2006

Aissa Yvonne Finley

Aissa was born on May 16th at 2:49PM via c-section.

Mom is good and home.

Aissa is still in the NICU recovering from stuff in her lungs and the effects of a medication Tolani was on while pregnant. She should come home first part of next week.

Lots of thoughts and feelings have gone through my head this last week. I have tried to sort them all out with little luck. Half the time I'm sad half happy and mostly tired. The hospital is an hour away so I've been logging a lot of drive time. Mother in law here as well I will say nothing more.

I guess I just want her home so we can be a family.

I'm not sure that means right now though. Family has negative images for me so I'm not sure what it means. I mean family has to be good at some level I just don't know what level that is. How can family be loving, supportive, encouraging, ect?

But Aissa is so beautiful she has her moms face. I love her so much, these emotions make no sense but that's why they are emotions. I'm just scared I will screw her up worse then my parents messed me up.

Anyway pictures will come soon.


Our goal is that our son is not in therapy for the same reason that we were. I think if you follow your gut and remember what you wish your dad did you will be ok. Right now our son's favorite way of bonding with Dwight is to roll his dice for D&D.

By Blogger Rebecca, at 6:19 AM  


By Blogger Gordon, at 3:23 AM  

Congrats to you both... God bless little Aissa...

With love from Motherwell, Scotland

By Blogger headphonaught, at 2:15 PM  

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Sunday, May 14, 2006

This and that...

Well moves out west have come and gone.
We are still on the nickel. Wouldn't trade it for a suburban corps ever.
Just here waiting for the baby, Tolani will be induced tomorrow so we will be parents. I have not been thinking about much lately. Dwight has posted some interesting questions.

I guess I am at a point where even though I still don't like church a lot I can appreciate it because it helps some. Not only that but on the nickel there is a point to it all. Everyone has a common purpose. What we say and do on Sundays actually matter. What I teach is useful. People for better or worse do something with what they learn. They take it back to their world and hopefully enjoy a new life.

What I see though is the failure of the evangelical gospel (4 spiritual laws ect). It just doesn't work. If it was a scientific formula then it would always work. But it doesn't. I think its just naive and simplistic and unbiblical. People at harbor light have prayed the prayer many times over and honestly believing the mantra and still time after time gone back out and used. Where they "saved?" Does it matter? I mean if they are still hurting their families and themselves and not participating in the Kingdom so what if they will go to heaven. They are living in hell. Salvation without life change is no salvation. So maybe we need to re think the whole evangelical project. The gospel Christ taught leads to change. That change is not a future heaven thing its now. I've seen it. So take the comfort of middle class church and keep it. I'll stick with the nickel.


I was at a book release party last night and the author, David Fitch, was discussing exactly that.

In the past it was about getting people to make a decision for Christ at Billy Graham type events. But Jesus asks us not to make a one day decision, but asks us to turn our lives over and become living sacrifices.

So often we stick to old evangelical practices that for the most part cut you off once you have made your decision.

We as a church, and as an Army, need to start spending more time with inidividuals, helping them make life changing decisions.

Glad to hear moves went well for you. Sounds like the community you are in can very much use you.

Peter (Canada)

By Blogger peter, at 11:53 AM  

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Sunday, May 07, 2006

Suns' inner strength

The Phoenix Suns appeared to be in huge trouble after the Los Angeles Lakers stole Game 4 of the teams' first-round playoff series.

Now don't get me wrong I'm not a NBA fan really, not enough contact for me. But being in LA I am pounded with Laker talk. I hate the Lakers. Mostly now because of Kobe. Anyway nothing could be better.

The hallway series will not be played the Clippers will have to wait for another chance to thrash the Lakers.

The moral?

Its freeking May and there is nothing else to talk about.

God bring training camp here fast!


:o) There's always the Kentucky Derby...Baseball...The Salvation Army's logo/name policy on blogs!

Sorry, had to throw that in there.

For Blood and Fire (used without permission),

By Blogger Dave C, at 4:04 PM  

I agree with Dave.

Here's one to talk about . . . it's a survey I'm doing in relation to my latest blog. If you have a minute, take the survey. . .it'll take about two minutes. It is in relation to the uniform and the mission of the Army . . . ie, see the blog.



PS Feel free to forward this to whoever you want. The more surveys completed the better.

By Blogger Bret, at 6:00 PM  

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Monday, May 01, 2006


Over the past week much has happened but not much at all has happened. Real Live Preacher has an interesting discussion going on about the nature of Scripture (bible) and how we can trust it. If that sort of thing interests you check it out.

Wednesday was our last soldiership class. it went 12 weeks and we will see if any choose to become soldiers. Some may come adherents. Army people, why the double membership. I really don't like it anymore, never did to begin with anyway. My answer? What I told the class, why soldiership? Have an answer I don't have one. I became a soldier only cause I was going to training. Why everyone else? I don't know.

We are still waiting for baby to come. Once baby and pictures I'll post a link.

A special person showed back up we thought she was in Fresno but she is back on the nickel. Sad.

Not much is happening in my head these days. I guess I am tired of retreading all the theology. I mean does it matter? Does it matter what denim you are, theological school, modern postmodern, or any of it? I just don't care. I know what I think. I know what I base everything on but so what?

So here is a thought for today:

What if, you and I are all wrong? And, Can you live with that possibility/reality?

I can in fact I think I do.


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